Sex Dictionary

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6 Inch Rule

A state or city ordinance regulating the air space a stripper must maintain between a customer during a lap dance to avoid being charged with prostitution. This distance is most often 6 or 12 inches.

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A Spot

An area in the vagina between the cervix and the g-spot is known as the anterior fornix erogenous zone. The area is often compared to the male prostate as it can be sensitive to stimulation.


Abstinence is a personal decision to abstain from sexual activity. It is also a form of sex education that has been proven ineffective when taught as a replacement for an all-inclusive sex education program.

AIDS (Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome)

A viral infection stemming from HIV (Human Immunodeficiency Virus) that wreaks havoc on the body’s immune system and ability to fight off infection. It is a medical diagnosis that is given when a person’s T cell blood count is under 200.

Air Dance

A type of lap dance performed by a stripper where there is no physical contact, leaving air, between the customer and the stripper. Often performed in cities and states that have a 6 inch rule.


Often refers to a genre of pornography where the participants are not professionals and the production value is that of a homemade video.


A common term used to describe anal sex or anal sex play of the rectum.

Anal Beads

An anal sex toy resembling a beaded necklace made of plastic or soft silicone beads strung together on a sturdy cord to be inserted into the anus and pulled out during orgasm.

Anal Bleaching

The practice of applying a bleaching product to the anus so the skin in that area is lightened or more pinkish.

Anal Sex

A type of sexual intercourse where the anus is penetrated or someone penetrates your anus.

Anal Stretching

The process of stretching the anus with anal sex toys or anal fisting to achieve a wide open look which can take 3-6 hours for the anus to contract back to the original size.


The act of giving or receiving oral sex on the anus, slang terms include riming, getting rimmed and tossed salad.

Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome (AIS)

Occurring in about 1 out of 20,000 births AIS is a medical condition where a male is resistant to male hormones androgens and can have some female characteristics although genetically being male. The condition can be Complete AIS or Incomplete AIS. Medical options and treatment are dependent on the type of AIS the individual has.


Androgynous or intersex is a medical term for having both male and female genes.

It is sometimes used to describe how a person looks when it is difficult to distinguish if someone is a male or female.

Anonymous Sex

Participating in sexual activity with a stranger where usually not even names are exchanged. This is generally thrill seeking behavior that goes beyond casual sex, often taking place in public restrooms or adult book stores.


The cavity at the end of the rectum controlled by the sphincter where waste exits the body. It is also used by some for various types of stimulation during sexual activity.


A food or substance (such as chocolate, oysters, Spanish fly, or pheromones) frequently believed to increase attraction, desire, libido, or sexual performance.


The circular area that surrounds the nipple of the breast; they come in all shapes and sizes and commonly change throughout life with hormone fluctuations or pregnancy.

Arousal Stage

A stage in the human sexual response cycle when blood flow increases to the genital area and the female vagina and vulva swell or the male penis becomes erect.


An asexual or non-sexual person is a person who does not experience sexual attraction to any sex. Being asexual is not the same as celibacy. According to, being asexual is a sexual orientation.

Ass-To-Mouth (A2M)

A practice popularized by porn that involves performing oral sex on a penis immediately after it comes out of an ass. Using a condom during anal sex then removing it before oral can be a more sanitary way to perform this act.

Autoerotic Asphyxiation

A risky form of masturbation that can lead to brain damage or death during which a person uses various means to cut off their oxygen supply, self-suffocating, to reach a heightened climax.


The act of a man performing oral sex on himself mainly done as a man lies on his back with his legs bent over his head.


The capabilities of a man to bend his penis backward so that he is able have anal sex with himself.

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A slang term for male testicles, they are located below the penis , produce testosterone and sperm and most males are born with two.

Bartholin's Glands

Located at the bottom sides of the vagina, they are two small glands that secrete lubrication in response to stimulation, also called the greater vestibular gland.

Bath House

A business that provides a social place for men to meet and bathe together, use steam rooms, showers or sauna . Some bath houses are in actuality sex clubs where men meet to engage in sexual activity.

Battery Operated Boyfriend

Often called a BOB, it is a term women use to describe their relationship with their sex toys.


An acronym for Bondage & Discipline (B/D), Dominance & Submission (D/s), Sadism & Masochism (S/M) which is consensual erotic power play that typically involves some form of pain.


A term for a male with a lot of body hair and a large build, it is most often used to describe gay males, i.e. gay bears.


A person who is curious to explore a sexual relationship with someone of the same sex but has yet to do so.

Biological Clock Ticking

The biological clock ticking refers to the intense urge that some females have to get pregnant. Women do have a real “biological clock” as it is more difficult to get pregnant with age.

Birth Control

A form of contraception used to prevent pregnancy during sex. Common forms are birth control pills, condoms, diaphragms, and IUDs.


Bisexuality is a sexual orientation where one is attracted to both males and females, also known as being bi.

Blended Orgasm

An intense female orgasm felt throughout the body that is a combination of a clitoral, g-spot, or vaginal orgasm.

Blow Job

A slang term for fellatio, the act of giving or receiving oral sex on the penis, it is generally performed by sucking the penis anywhere from erection to climax, also known as a bj or head.


A term sometimes used to describe a gay male or biological female who presents themselves as young and boyish.


The restraining a person during sex usually with handcuffs, being tied to a bed, or some other physical limit.


A term used to describe a gay male who is a submissive partner or prefers to be the recipient of anal penetration.


They are mammary glands on the front of human female chest and some other mammals. They contain a complex network of fat and tissue that have the ability to produce milk and for some women sexual stimulation.

Breath Play

Breath play or erotic asphyxiation is a risky sexual turn on where a person’s oxygen supply is temporarily cut off while engaging in sexual behavior.

Bug Chaser

This term refers to people (generally gay men) who engage in risky sexual behavior with the intent to become infected with HIV/AIDS.


A Japanese term popularized by porn otherwise known as a facial. It is when someone’s face is sprayed with loads of ejaculation or cum.


A term used to describe a lesbian female who has distinctive masculine characteristics.

Butt Plugs

Sex toys that are shaped to be used in the anus, generally with a base on one end making removal easier.

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Located at the lower end of the uterus and the top of the vagina it is responsible for allowing blood flow during menstruation, a baby to pass through during labor, as well as contractions during orgasm and pushing sperm into the uterus.

Chastity Belt

A device covering the genitals worn to keep someone chaste by preventing sexual penetration.

Circle Jerk

It refers to a group of males getting together to masturbate in front of each other.


It’s another term for orgasm or ejaculation.


Containing between 6000-8000 nerve endings this part of the female anatomy located at the top front of the vaginal opening has but one purpose, pleasure.

Cock Ring

A circular ring that can be placed at the base of the penis to inhibit blood flow out allowing for a harder erection, it is a type of sex toy mostly used by men with erectile dysfunction to enhance their performance.


A barrier method of protection used for safer sex to lower the risk pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections, commonly made out of latex or polyurethane.

Consensual Sex

Mutual consent, agreement, approval, or permission by all involved to engage in sexual activity.

Coronal Ridge

A sensitive ridge of the penis located between the shaft and the head.

Cowper's Glands

Located at the base of the penis these two small structures produce pre-ejaculate or pre-cum which lubricates the urethra and neutralizes acid.


A term popularized by porn it is when sperm drips from the vagina or anus after ejaculation. It could also refer to giving/receiving oral sex during this process.


A term which refers to people who dress in clothing opposite their assigned birth sex, typically a male dressing in female clothing. This is usually done in private, by individuals who generally do not wish to live as another gender and is separate from how the individual classifies their sexual orientation.


Modernly used to describe a male whom enjoys watching or gets pleasure from his wife having sex with other men.


A slang term used to describe the moment of orgasm or the male ejaculate semen.


The act of performing or receiving oral sex on the female vulva, it is also referred to as being eaten out or going down.

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Delayed Gratification

Prolonged sexual activity for the purpose of delaying pleasure, characterized by repeated slowing down, stopping, or mental resistance while on the edge of orgasm.


Referring to the reversal of an erection or the diminished of swelling as blood leaves the penis.


A barrier form of birth control that is dome shaped, made of silicone or latex, and is inserted before sex into the vagina to cover the cervix preventing sperm from entering the uterus.


A general term for a sex toy used for penetration, they are most often penis shaped, but come in many forms, sizes, colors and materials.

Doggie Style

The rear entry sex position, where the male vaginally penetrates the female from behind, it is the most popular position for achieving deep vaginal penetration.


When an exhibitionist couple posts the location online of a planned public sex act(generally in a parked car) so that voyeurs can watch.


A sexual role play where one partner is dominant and the other submissive.

Double Penetration

Sexual intercourse where two cavities (vagina/ mouth/ anus) are penetrated at the same time, often occurs during a threesome.

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Located by the side and top of the testicles, it is a tightly curved tube where sperm mature over a period of weeks.

Erectile Dysfunction

E.D. or impotence is when a man cannot maintain an erection long enough or hard enough to have sexual intercourse.


Usually refers to the enlargement and hardening of the penis as blood flows into the organ. This may be caused by stimulation or an involuntary reaction. Nipples and the clitoris can also become erect.

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Face Sitting

A sex position whereas a women receives oral sex sitting on her partner’s face.


It’s the act of performing or receiving oral sex on the penis.

Female Ejaculation

Sometimes the result of a G-Spot orgasm, it’s when a female “squirts” fluid out of the urethra caused by extreme arousal.

Female Sexual Dysfunction (FSD)

Refers to continual problems with female sexual desire/response that makes sexual relationships difficult, FSD can be caused by a number of factors such as hormonal imbalance, partner performance, stress, etc.


Often called a lipstick lesbian, it refers to a lesbian who presents herself in a typically girly feminine way.


An act, object, or material that is normally non-sexual but arouses sexual desire or it is needed for sexual gratification.


Digital penetration of the vagina or anus for sexual stimulation, it’s also known as finger banging or digital foreplay.


A kinky sex act that entails inserting a hand into a partner’s vagina or anus.


Used to describe a penis that is not erect.


Sexual activity that leads up to sex to turn your partner on before intercourse, this can include kissing, rubbing, touching, etc.


It’s the layer of protective skin on an uncircumcised male penis that retracts during erection and is cut off during circumcision.

French Kiss

Open mouthed intimate kissing where tongues touch.


Located at under the head of the penis between the glans and the shaft, it is very sensitive to stimulation.

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A term referring to the sexual orientation of a homosexual person or individuals who are physically and emotionally attracted to members of the same sex.


Refers to the believed ability to know that someone is homosexual or not, gay radar.

Gender Expression

The apparent expression of a person's gender identity as masculine or feminine, which may or may not conform to social norms. These characteristics are expressed through mannerisms, speech patterns, movement, grooming, personal style, and social interactions.

Gender Identity

An individuals inherent, deep-seated gender status as a man, a woman, or some other gender assignment, which may or may not correspond with their assigned birth gender or external physical appearance.

Gender Non-Conforming

A term for a person's gender expression which does not conform to societal norms or stereotypes related to that person's apparent gender.

Gender Queer

A term that refers to a person who does not conform to or accept any specific gender role or gender representative behavior.

Genital Shame

Typically refers to females who are ashamed or embarrassed by the appearance their genitals, mostly resulting from comparing images they see in porn.

Girlfriend Experience (GFE)

Refers to a paid sexual encounter where the male seeks a more intimate sexual experience, and request to be treated as if it’s a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship, not like he’s a client.


Containing between 6k-8k nerve endings in the female clitoral head and about 4k nerve endings in the smooth penis tip, it is part of our pleasure system.

Glory Hole

Refers to a hole usually in a public bathroom stall, where men insert their penis to have anonymous sexual encounters.

Golden Shower

Being peed on or peeing on someone for sexual pleasure or humiliation.


Usually refers to anal sex between men and women.

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Hand Job

Refers to the use of a hand to masturbate a penis, usually to ejaculation or as a part of foreplay, it can also be called jerking off.

Happy Ending

In terms of sex, it refers to a hand job, blow job, or other method that a massage parlor worker employs to get a customer to climax at the end of a massage.

Hard On

Slang term for an erection, also known as having a woody or boner.

Harm Reduction

Methods that drug users or people who have an STD/STI use to lessen infection risk to sexual partners. This may include only having sex with those who are also infected, using condoms properly, refraining from sex, participating in needle exchanges, etc.


A term for a person that is attracted to those of the opposite sex and self-identifies as heterosexual, however they remain open to having relationships with those of the same sex.


A sexual orientation where people are physically and emotionally attracted to persons of the opposite sex, also called being straight.


A bruise on the skin, commonly the neck or chest, caused by sucking the skin in one spot, sometimes occurs during intimate play.


A sexual orientation where people are physically and emotionally attracted to persons of the same sex, also called being gay or lesbian.

Hooking Up

Another term for casual sex or sex without a relationship, this may be a onetime event or a friends with benefits (FWB) recurring encounter.


Produced in gland organs, hormones travel through the bloodstream regulating the function of other organs. Sex glands in humans are mainly regulated by the hormones testosterone and estrogen as well as progesterone in females.


It refers to a state of having a pressing sexual desire.

Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV)

A viral sexual transmitted infection, spread through the exchange of bodily fluid, it destroys white blood cells that power the immune system and is the precursor to AIDS.


Refers to a man with a larger than average penis.


The vaginal membrane partially or completely covering the vaginal opening, it is often associated with virginity; however it may break through physical activities long before a female becomes sexually active.

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The medical term for erectile dysfunction, where a male has difficulty achieving or maintaining an erection and/or an inability to ejaculate, which interferes with intercourse.


A process where the genitals are modified, mutilated, or removed to prevent the possibility of sexual intercourse. Modernly this practice is relegated to females in some African, Middle Eastern and Southeast Asian cultures to ensure virginity but dates back to ancient Rome where male slaves often had their genitals mutilated.

Interfemoral Sex

A sexual simulation where the male thrust his penis between his partner’s thighs generally performed as an alternative to penetration.


A person who is born with biologically inconsistent female and male chromosomes, internal and external genitalia or ambiguity that creates secondary sexual characteristics.

Intrauterine Device (IUD)

A long term birth control device that is inserted into the uterus by an OB/GYN, it can prevent pregnancy for up to 10 years and can be removed at anytime.

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Jack and Jill Party

In terms of sex it is a private masturbation party where individuals engage in self-masturbation or mutual masturbation while others watch. Other type of sex does not take place at these parties. It may also be called a Jack & Jill Off party or JJO.

Jerking Off

It is a slang term for male masturbation also known as beating off, wanking off, or beating your meat.

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An exercise done to strengthen the pelvic floor this can help after childbirth, with incontinence, to intensify orgasm, or gain genital muscle control. This is done by isolating the pelvic floor muscles. Using the same muscles you’d use to stop and start the flow or urination, tighten and hold for several seconds a few repetitions a day.


A deviation into sexual activities that are not considered the norm, examples include spanking, tying up a partner or food play.

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Late in Life Lesbian

A term for a woman who has led a typical heterosexual life but came out as a lesbian later in life.


A term used to describe a gay female, a female who is only physically and emotionally attracted to other females.

Lipstick Lesbian

Also known as a femme, a lipstick lesbian presents herself in a feminine way enjoying clothes, shoes, makeup, etc, and most often seems “straight.”

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Refers to a person who receives sexual gratification from a certain type of pain.


It’s a medical penile alteration that enlarges the penis head typically done to alleviate a medical condition, although it can be elective for sexual reasons.

Menage a Trois

The literal translation refers to a living situation where three people reside in the same household; they may or may not engage in sexual activity together, however most people associate this term to mean a threesome.

Multiple Orgasms

A series of recurring orgasms that happen in a short period of time, they are usually experienced by women but are possible for males who have a short refractory period.

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Nocturnal Emission

Also known as a wet dream, it is when a male ejaculates while sleeping. Females can also experience orgasm or vaginal lubrication associated with sexual arousal while sleeping.

As defined by Alfred Kinsey, sexual arousal during sleep that awakens one to perceive the experience of orgasm.


Spermicidal lubricant found in many condoms, gels, foams, and suppositories, it is a detergent that disrupts sperm to reduce the chance of pregnancy; however studies have shown that it can irritate the skin making the user more vulnerable to HIV/STI infections.

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Oral Sex

A general term used to describe the act of giving or receiving oral sex; sexual stimulation of the female genitals or male genitals performed by the mouth, licking or sucking.

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PDE5 Inhibitor

Commonly known as prescription medications Viagra, Cialis, and Levitra, they are used to treat erectile dysfunction. PDE5 stands for phosphodiesterase type 5 inhibitor. PDE5’s are prescribed by a doctor to block a specific enzyme and allow for more blood flow into the penis.

Pearl Necklace

A term used to describe the translucent pearl like look against the skin when a man ejaculates on his partner’s neck or chest.


A slang term named the winner of a Dan Savage contest to describe a woman penetrating a man in the anus with a dildo. Also known as a bend over boyfriend, pegging is unrelated to how a man defines his sexual orientation.


This is the area between the vaginal opening in a female or the scrotum and anus of a male. This area is often cut (episiodomy) during childbirth to avoid ripping with delivery. Many men enjoy having this area stimulated as it is full of nerve endings.

Persistent Sexual Arousal Syndrome (PSAS)

A disorder characterized by a woman being persistently aroused without the aid physical stimulation. Women with PGAD can experience genital arousal for days or weeks at a time and engaging in sex may not provide relief. This extended period of arousal can interfere with daily activities and the extended stimulation often causes more pain than pleasure. This condition most often affects women with hormonal conditions or who are post-menopausal however there are men who have reported similar symptoms.

Peyronie's Disease

Peyronie's (pa-ro-NEEZ) disease is a condition where fibrous scar tissue inside the penis causes it to curve resulting in painful erections. A curved penis is not cause for concern. Treatment is available if peyronie's disease prevents a man from having sex, causes painful erections, stress or anxiety.


A chemical often used in the production of sex toys, usually described as jelly or cyber skin, to make them softer and more flexible. They can also be found in plastic baby toys and dog toys. Phthalates are made from phathalic acid and products containing it sometimes give off a strong plastic smell. They are also known to disrupt the endocrine which can affect semen quality or possibly lead to undropped testicles (cryptorchidism).

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Non-consensual penetration, sexual assault or forced sexual activity, more specifically defined by individual state and local laws.

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Physical activity intended to cause arousal often including intercourse between consenting persons.

The state of identifying gender.


A broad term to describe an exchange of sexually explicit pictures or videos of oneself and/or explicit sexual language regarding what you want to do with or to that person conducted via text, email, etc.

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Text Before Sex

An text agreement where both parties give consent before sexual activities to prevent a later sexual assault allegation, also called a yes text before sex.


A catch-all terms for individuals whose gender identity/expression does not match their assigned birth sex. Not all transgender people live full time as another sex. Those who cross dress or are androgynous do not live in a gender binary manner, but may be referred to as transgender. The preferred use of the term transgender is as an adjective not a noun or verb. (Correct: Carol is a transgender woman. Incorrect: Carol is a transgender. OR Carol is transgendered.)

Transgender Man

Transman, a term for a transgender individual self-identifies as a man, however was assigned female at birth.

Transgender Woman

Transwoman, a term for an individual who self-identifies as a woman, however was assigned a male at birth.


Individuals whose innate gender differs from their assigned birth sex. These people often live full-time as members of the opposite sex. They may or may not take hormones or ever have surgery. Some in the transgender community prefer the more general term transgender.

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